Human beings are terrible at predicting their own behavior. We are so quick to say things like “I cannot believe she did that,” or “I would NEVER.” But in all actuality, we have no idea what we would do if we were in their shoes.
We jump to these conclusions because it is much easier to deny actions that we cannot seem to rationalize. We just cannot bear the thought of admitting that we are just as capable of making the same mistake. So, we jump on our high and mighty horse and proceed to degrade the person who messed up.
But that could be us. A split-second decision can place us in the same exact shoes of a person who makes a terrible mistake. Within the blink of an eye, our entire life can change due to one bad decision. Yet, we are still quick to judge even though we know deep down that we do very similar actions without getting caught.
Tragic events hurt and we must take time to mourn their aftermath. But being brutal to a person who made a mistake will not change what happened. They will have to live with the guilt of their actions for the rest of their lives. Our anger and judgment towards them are not going to undo the tragedy.
Whatever punishment is due for their actions will be handled by God. Our constant negativity regarding the situation will not make things better, for it will only make matters worse. We must remember that God also offers them the same forgiveness that he offers us when we ourselves mess up.
So when you find yourself being cold towards a person who has really messed up, try to place yourself in their shoes and show some compassion.
Com·pas·sion /kəmˈpaSHən/ noun - sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others
“Instead of putting others in their place put yourself in their place.”
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